Intimitás, kapcsoltok, szexualitás
Welcome to “skills for intimacy”! In this section you will find some theoretical input, videos and method sheets to tackle the question of good distance / good proximity in the practice of youth workers.
We propose four different resources:
1. Our theoretical texts present the conceptual and methodological background on which we built our practical educational tools. Here you will find a short introduction to our conceptualization of “intimacy”, how it is related to cultural diversity and what are its challenges. We also offer a brief introduction to our two methodological pillars: “Intimacy, interaction and power » and an intercultural approach mindful of diversity and power relations.
2. The « workshop outline » shows you one possible flow of activities that we tried out.
3. You can check out our videos that illustrate the whole workshop (“learning path”) and the sequence about contact and consent.
4. You can also use our materials to create your own workshops to develop relational skills. The “method sheets” give you the necessary information to carry out or adapt the activities we developed.
5. A case study from our partner in Amsterdam offers connects the subject matter with a real-life context: that of the residents and volunteers of an integration house in Ijburg, Amsterdam.
6. Our glossary helps in finding orientation among phenomena and categories related to gender and sexuality. For a better understanding, besides offering definitions we also provide testimonies (texts or videos ) of concerned people who share what that specific concept means for them.
Intimacy, love, relationship and interculturality
What is intimacy? This is a very deep and puzzling question that we can ask ourselves. Indeed, we may feel that the more we reflect upon it, the more confused we become. It is hard to find one single definition, and with reason, because intimacy – as a quality of any relationship or interaction, or any moment of our life – is always something very personal and unique. Yet this very personal phenomenon is also deeply connected to cultural representations of what is a relationship, what are emotions, what is sexuality.. and always rooted in a specific socio-historical context.
Intimacy, interaction and power – the method
Intimacy, interaction and power is a practical method – or rather an approach – that was developed by the staff of In Touch Amsterdam in response to the social challenges we face in our process of living intimacy. Its aim is to foster social integration at different levels, and to help people build and maintain healthy relationships with a special focus on close relations. Its repertoire includes practical elements, mostly drawn from dance, movement, martial arts, fine arts and theatre as well as everyday rituals and activities like cooking or gardening. Beyond its main pillars – empowerment, intimacy and social interaction – there are a few other important elements that should be mentioned, such as process-oriented learning, fostering critical thinking, inclusion and systemic focus. As an approach, it can be used in different contexts such as pedagogy, therapy or training as well in youth work or community building. In the following pages we discuss a few of the key components in detail
 Boal, A. (1992) Games For Actors and Non-Actors. Routledge: London. ; Boal, A. (1995) The Rainbow of Desire: The Boal Method of Theatre and Therapy. Routledge: London.
Intimacy and diversity in the training room
A workshop addressing intimacy and sexuality from an intercultural perspective implies a double sensitivity: questions of intimacy are already sensitive and tackling them requires extra care and a specific approach from the trainers (see previous section). An intercultural approach also implies sensitivity, as it raises issues of awareness of identities, group relations, and possibly power relations between groups to which participants may belong. Because of this “double bind”, we felt it necessary to include this section in our handbook. We introduce some topics below we feel are important. Our answers are obviously not the only answers possible: take them as a contribution, an inspiration to come up with your own answers!
In the following part, we introduce a 20-hour offline workshop learning path plan. Most of the exercises can be done online, you can check this information in each activity sheet.
The main topic of this training is intimacy from an intercultural perspective. We are working with non-formal methodology called Intimacy, interaction and power (see method in detail in previous chapters). This means that we do not discuss our topics “in theory”, but invite participants for a journey of “learning by doing” or “learning by experiencing”
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